The
acronyms S/M (for Sado-Masochism), B/D (for Bondage & Discipline), and
D/s (for Domination & submission), all describe various delineations
of the techniques that encompass the practice of using psychological
Dominance and submission, physical bondage, the pain/pleasure dynamic
and various related practices to consensually bring about ecstatic states
of mind or sexual gratification.
S/m,
as with other socially unaccepted practices, has its own set of lingo
that revolves around it. I will define a few of the terms that will
be used throughout this section..
1. Dominant, Dom, Domme, One or Top are terms to describe Who is handling the application
of S/M techniques upon Their working partner. For
the most part, the Dom/me is responsible for creating the gnosis in Their
partner and also for the overall safety of the working. The Dom/me is the
Wielder of power, the Artist Who creates magick and ecstasy through the
arts of S/M that They have Mastered.
2.
sub, submissive, one or bottom is the person who has the techniques of S/M
worked upon them. The sub is the conduit of power, the canvas with which
the Dom/me creatively or artistically brings forth magickal manifestation.
A
good metaphor put forth by Stephen Flowers in "Carnal Alchemy" is that
the Dom/me is the Alchemist and the sub is the base metal that will be
transformed into gold. Turning pain into pleasure, powerlessness into
empowerment.
3.
A Scene within S/m circles is defined as a session wherein S/m techniques
are practiced to create sexual gratification and ecstasy in the Pparticipants.
S/M scenes are in most every respect rituals without the added empowerment
of well thought out symbolism and/or imprinting.
Though
many S/m scenes I've observed or participated in would not be considered
magickal rituals they have had obvious magickal and psychologically sound results in the areas
of illumination and breaking past fears, cathartic release, etc..
Let's
now discuss various reasons for utilizing S/m or related techniques
within a magickal context.
Nicholas
Gander in an article entitled "Scourging in Witchcraft", which appeared
in a IOT in-house magazine THE KAOS MAGICK JOURNAL (Summer '94) and
has been reprinted in the latest issue of WIDDERSHINS, outlines four
potential aims for utilizing scourging in Witchcraft, each of them being
applicable to S/m Magick as well. I will expound on these aims:
1.
"To achieve altered states of consciousness repeatedly and reliably."
As
magick Uusers, what Wwe are interested in is the utilization of S/M techniques
to bring about a state of gnosis/trance or no mind to create a magickal
outcome in either Oourselves or the world around Uus. Primarily this kind
of gnosis falls into what Peter J. Carroll calls a excitatory mode of
gnosis. Though techniques such as bondage and the use of blindfolds,
hoods, earplugs, etc. are techniques that are classically inhibitory,
and are used well within rites of a death oriented nature, they are
more often than not, in S/M, utilized as a means to strengthen alternate
senses that are being excited or stimulated.
By
mastering various techniques of S/m, and through experience, a magick Uuser
can apply these techniques to effect with safety and reliability.
Oone
must keep in mind that there are various safety concerns in practicing
such techniques and therefore the techniques should be thoroughly researched
and integrated through diligent practice.
2. "To strengthen the ability to move psychic energy (information/ biological signals) throughout the body and increase the potential energy, which the Mmagician is able to handle and manipulate at any one time."
This ability is necessary to Tthose that practice Tantra, internal martial arts such as Tai Chi, Ki Gong, etc. The technique of utilizing the mind to affect the biological being has been proven effective through the use of biofeedback, hypnotism and NLP.
3. "To ritually turn even adversity to advantage, retaining flexibility
in discomfort."
This concept is similar to Pete Carroll putting forth anathemism as a technique to liberation of the mind of the magician. To explore and face that which frightens, disgusts or is painful to Ooneself has a side effect of illuminating the Mmagicians' mind to the fact that these feelings and emotions are only constructs of the mind. Preconceptions are destroyed when the Mmagician overcomes the obstacles of fear and pain and realizes how resilient the body and mind are in overcoming such situations.
There seems to be a similar concept within some martial arts and survivalist training. These disciplines train the Sstudents to not give up in the face of adversity. With proper training and practice the mind and body can overcome situations where it would seem easier to give up or throw in the towel. Pushing Oone's mental and physical limits through S\M experiences 00 empowers the Mmagician to feel increasingly more confident to make decisions unfettered by meaningless fear and strengthens Oone's fortitude and resolve in overcoming obstacles that could sabotage Oone's desires.
Typically
when Ppeople hear the words Sadism and masochism they immediately think
of pain. Oour typical aversion to pain is an instinctual reaction. It
is a useful instinct that teaches Uus that once Wwe burn Oourselves on
the stove, to not stick Oour fingers in the flame again. It helps keep
Uus alive, but then transcending pain can lead to states of consciousness
not readily accessed through other means.
It is one thing to react to stimulation or pain, whether external or internal, through instinct and another to acknowledge the process through which the body reacts and manipulate it through mental technique. S/m, when properly applied, familiarizes the Pparticipants with Ttheir bodies' and minds' reactions and allows Tthem to harness it to gnostic effect. Proper application of S/m techniques allows the Pparticipants to learn how to reach progressively stronger states of gnosis and apply them effectively.
The
practice of inducing pain in the form of whipping, paddling, clamps,
etc. is a means of utilizing external stimulation to induce biological
reactions that create gnosis through release of endorphins. This is
very similar to the state of mind accessed by runners and other athletes
after approx. 45 minutes of exertion or 45 minutes of energy raising in preparation of ritual.
Domination
& submission -
Power exchange and humiliation
First
off, Wwe need to throw out any concepts of Political Correctness. S/M
is a way to power by accepting that Oone's own fantasies are worthy of
indulging. S/M is a way to power for both the submissive and the Dominant.
The roles can be adopted by Mmale to Ffemale, Mmale to Mmale or Ffemale to
Ffemale. Mmany Mmagicians have found it enlightening to throw off accepted
roles and adopt a system of experience for experience's sake. Regardless
of the sexes involved S/M scenes allow the Pparticipants to experience
roles that empower Tthemselves in one way or another.

S/M
techniques are powerful and when used wisely are great sources to Ppersonal
growth, power and effecting the world in a clear manner. The key is
to know what Yyou are doing, to not be afraid to experiment and to always
nurture communication with Tthose Yyou are involved with. Different Ppeople
have different tastes and by learning a bit about each technique and
fully exploring those that interest Yyou the most will instill confidence
in Yyourself and increase not only Yyour repertoire of magickal techniques,
but also Yyour abilities in opening new Ppartners' minds and experiences
with Yyour wilingness and abilities in the sexual arena.
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