If you are familiar with the D/s dynamic, itself, you are a step ahead of the game, but for those who are not, let's begin with the basics. Domination/submission is about a complete power exchange between the participating parties. Those parties are typically a couple, but some have incorporated a fantasy game into the D/s world, and many Gorean [that's what they're called because they are modelling their lifestyle after a fantasy game....don't ask, that would need a whole new article for me to explain] Dominants have a plethora of submissives at their whim.
Now, in reality, this lifestyle is typically practiced online, as the real time practice would involve many bedrooms, and a vast budget with which to support said harem; the poly-amorous lifestyle is currently not legal anywhere in the United States; and the jealousy of the submissives nearly always destroys the Dominant's peaceful frame of mind [and oftentimes mental stability *L*], when practiced in real time.
So just for the sake of simplicity, we will speak of couples. The Dominant assumes 100% responsibility for the safety of the submissive. The submissive MUST, in exchange, relinquish 100% of his/her control over their own lives, in order for this power exchange to take place. That is not to say the submissive is not to use his/her intelligence, wit, and/or common sense when dealing with the world. The key is the submissive is to behave and do as the Dominant determines appropriate and/or desirable. All the time. Under all circumstances.
This practice MUST come from a long-established TRUST. Oone can NOT commit and/or submit 100% to ANYONE without well-earned trust firmly in place before hand. To do otherwise is to, quite literally, place your life in a stranger's hands.
This is not a decision to be taken lightly, nor is it any form of a game. Many play the game online, but have no real idea what it means to BE Dominant or submissive. Women, Dominance does NOT equate Domineering! Men, Dominance does NOT equate a license to victimize! All too often, that's just the behaviors I see online. Those who play like this, are NOT Lifestylers. They are pretenders. Please keep this in mind, if you are looking for a playmate. If you want to be raped, try walking alone at night down any deserted city street, just about anywhere, and your dream will be fulfilled. These actions are NOT what D/s is about.
Most people confuse D/s with BDSM. Domination/submission can include bondage, discipline, and sado-masochism, but does NOT equate it. A Dom [or Domme] may be loving, gentle, compassionate, genuinely caring for the submissive. The submissive may return those feelings. Discipline is sometimes used to train the submissive properly, but those dynamics should be discussed long and deep before they are employed. Each D/s couple will have a different set of rules, contracts, and ethics.
My husband and I live the D/s lifestyle. he is not into pain, and I no longer possess the need to inflict it. I am happy with him. he takes all the bad feelings away. Were we under different circumstances, he would submit to My need to inflict pain, and in the beginning, he did...and would again. We are considered by those who know us, to be a loving couple who never argue, never fight, and are deeply in love with one another. We can thank D/s and our spiritual beliefs for the state of our marriage.
There ARE no rules set in stone as far as the D/s lifestyle goes, but one: Mutual respect and trust must be present. Otherwise, the game you play becomes dangerous, unnecessarily endangering both parties involved.
Next, if you are not familiar with Magickal energies and how they work, please take a moment to peruse this essay: Work/Study on Magickal Energies.
Magick is the result of manipulation of the Earth's energies to affect a desired change. One does not "do" Magick, as one does not "do" the result. The activities required in order to cause Magick to occur is generally called Spell Casting, but is really more a prayer with an exercise in energy work.
Energy comes in many thousands of forms: static, kinetic, chemical, even dark energy, which is a hypothetical form of energy that permeates all of space and tends to increase the rate of expansion of the universe. There is electrical energy, chemical energy, mechanical energy, heat, potential energy, work, and many others, too.
The type of energy Magick users deal with is potential energy, which is altered by the force of our will into a type of non-physical energy, which IS REAL. Now according to Carl Jung, psychic energy cannot be measured quantitatively in terms of formulae as forms of physical energy can be. Additionally, Victor Zammit, afterlife attorney, has made a stand-up case [albeit accidentally] for Pagans, that when scientists are able to harness, manipulate and control 'non-physical energy', traditional materialist reductionist science will be seen as being like the science of the steam engine!
No materialist reductionist scientist, no professor or associate professor or other loud mouthed materialist debunker in the world has been able to rebut the objective evidence for existence of non-physical energy. In fact, cerulean photography has proven that the energy we use CAN be measured, though it IS non-physical [astral] energy.
The energies raised through adrenaline are physical energies; work energies. This energy can be handled in four key ways in the Magickal Bedroom.
1. It can go unused, other than banking it back into the Earth in the form of healing energies for Gaia's sake,
2. It can be harnessed by the Dominant Magick user, and focused upon a desired goal,
3. It can be utilized by the submissive to achieve a goal he/she has been working on, or...
4. It can be utilized jointly by the Dominant and the submissive towards a mutual goal.
Obviously, the fourth choice is the desirable choice, as the focus of two or more is infinitely stronger. Adrenaline surges may be affected through many means and/or emotions: pain, pleasure, suspense, etc. Blindfolding of the submissive is customary in helping to create the dynamic of sensory heightening and suspense.
Blending the two lifestyles will take some work for the couple involved, as neither is a necessary component of the other, but they can and do work intimately with one another, to great success and affect.
When Oone takes into account the act of Great Rite, which is sometimes used by Pagans in honor of the consummation of the union of the Goddess and the God, the implications become clear. Magickal workings, when blended with the D/s dynamic, and the embodiment of Deity are some of the strongest Magickal workings around.
I think this effectively demonstrates the compatibility of the D/s Lifestyle with the Magickal Pagan Bedroom. If you have any comments and/or questions, feel free.
To bring everything all together, you must have practiced raising energy as you engage in the love/BDSM dynamic. Raise the energy and direct it, while in the grips of your encounter. You must perfect the technique of concentrating on a goal while surrendering to the stimuli of the dynamic, simultaneously.
This is an acquired ability which requires hours of practice.
When this is accomplished, then you may begin combining this dynamic with your spellwork. At the peak of stimuli input, you must direct the energies raised into the spell you have worked/are working. Send then straight into the working you are "sealing/finalizing" and let it go as you do. *LOL*
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